Gratitude, Goldilocks, and Kerrygold butter (Ep.30)
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Happy gratitude season! We’d be ever so grateful if you’d follow us on social media (@pushingpastpolite on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, and YouTube), drop us a rating and review, and share episodes with your friends!
On Episode 30, our trio of Kori, Keith, Laura focus on gratitude. They share what they’re grateful for - including family, friends, and the podcast as well as Kerrygold butter, Costco, a Turkish rug, herbs and houseplants, the Marco Polo app, a Gordon Ramsey poached salmon recipe, classic music, a KitchenAid mixer named Josephine the Mixing Queen, self-employment and owning our time, conversations with random strangers that lead to something beautiful, coffee shop vibes in a sauna, a strong sense of community, Cindy - our new listener, good audio quality, friends that push you to be your best self, and upcoming opportunities to travel. But not to Knott’s Berry Farm. Getting stuck on a ride for hours sounds like torture.
And bonus - funny kid stories. Don’t yuck that yum.
Wishing you and yours a heart-warming, soul-restoring day and season of gratitude to bolster us for what lies ahead.
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[00:00:00] Kori: Oh yeah, Jay, Jay has been into Goldilocks and Three Bears. So I've been adding words like intruder and you know, cause that's what she is. Trespassing. Yeah, she's trespassing. Like she is Violating personal space. Violating their personal space. I'm like, she is Rude as hell. Burglarizing their house.
[00:00:23] Laura: And he's like, I don't
[00:00:24] Kori: want to read this book anymore.
[00:00:25] Yeah, I'm just like, we're going to talk about what's actually happening in this story. Okay. The blonde
[00:00:31] Laura: girl thought she could get away with it. Yeah. Cause she's a little blonde girl.
[00:00:35] Kori: Like little Goldilocks. I'm like, how do you just walk up into somebody's house though?
[00:00:40] Laura: Rude.
[00:00:41] Kori: Like, and then start eating their food.
[00:00:43] You break their shit. And then
[00:00:44] Keith: complaining about it. Right. This is too hot. This
[00:00:47] Kori: is too hot. This is too hard. Get out.
[00:00:51] Laura: Get out. Yeah. She yucked all of our yums. Get out of here. This isn't yours. So get the fuck out. We had a conversation last night at the dinner table. True story. Hudson was, we're talking about what was going to be at Thanksgiving and Hudson said turkey or ham.
[00:01:06] I think we said both. And he goes, yes. And Merrick goes, I hate them both. And Hudson goes, you know, listen. You don't have to eat it. I'm not saying you have to love it. But you're, have you ever heard the phrase, you're yucking my yum? Because that's what you're doing right now. And she looks at him and she goes, you're yumming my yuck.
[00:01:26] Kori: And Merritt and I just put our heads in our heads like, She's not wrong now. Take that
[00:01:33] Keith: you're all valid as you're young.
[00:01:38] Laura: Just say no, thanks. I'm glad I'm happy for you. You know, no, she can't that shit. That was great
[00:01:55] Kori: Anyway, welcome to pushing past polite where we talk about what matters and anyway more just I'm Kori and I'm Laura
[00:02:04] Keith: Okay,
[00:02:05] Kori: and we're so glad you're here Okay, Kori. Today I want to talk about gratitude. I feel like we've been talking a lot about hard things and they're truths, they're truthful, but also it's very important to like restore and heal and, you know, rejuvenate and think about all the things that we're also grateful for.
Laura: And focusing on the good as a,
[00:02:32] Kori: as a coping
[00:02:32] Laura: strategy, as a practice that helps to keep us healthy and whole
[00:02:36] Kori: as a wellness strategy. Being able to, like, acknowledge the things that are good and what we're grateful for, even if it's, you know, it doesn't have to be something that's great for us to be grateful.
[00:02:54] Laura: Okay, good. Can you think of an example in that category?
[00:02:56] Kori: Of something that doesn't have to Oh, I'm grateful for all of my family.
[00:03:01] Laura: But that's not great! No, you were saying something that's like, not a great thing, but I'm grateful for it. Oh, I guess she did mean it.
[00:03:10] Kori: My immediate family, but like my extended family.
[00:03:12] Laura: I'm offering you all kinds of opportunities to, to clarify.
[00:03:17] Kori: What do you mean? Because I know some
[00:03:17] Laura: people in your family that listen.
[00:03:19] Kori: Yeah.
[00:03:21] Laura: She's not afraid. She said what she said.
[00:03:23] Kori: I mean, like, it's just true. I'm grateful for them, but like sometimes it's just not that great. That doesn't make me not grateful for them.
[00:03:34] You know, like people can be annoying, people can be line crossing, people can be rude. Burglarizing. People can be burglarizing! Trespassing. Trespassing. Yuckin my yum. Yuckin my yum and yummin my yuck. No, but that's not really a good example. That's kind of where I was going. Yeah. Trying to save you. I mean, it's the truth though.
[00:03:58] Um. You know, more like for this mushroom coffee. It's not that great, but it's
[00:04:07] that's going to do the
[00:04:08] Laura: trick. It's so it's like the mud water stuff. Talk to me about this. Like, what does it taste like? You're like pretty bad. No, it's actually not that bad. It needs the creamer. If you have creamer in it, it's fine. Does it taste just like coffee or is it
[00:04:20] Kori: has its own, it's its own thing?
[00:04:23] It's, it's kind of its own thing. It has a coffee ish taste. Okay. But like a, like a watered down coffee, not like if you like bold or robust tasting coffee. No, this, this is like more of a
[00:04:33] Laura: watered coffee and it's like has health benefits, but does it also have caffeine or no? Are you just,
[00:04:43] Kori's like, and said, mushrooms. I said, yes, please. Yes, please.
[00:04:46] Kori: Yeah. I don't fucking know. My sister was telling me that she's using it. I'm like, I'm like a witch over here these days. Okay. I got a
[00:04:55] Laura: bat. What can I put in here?
[00:04:56] Kori: Literally. It's like, I got all these elixirs going. I got a beet, carrot, ginger, uh, something, something, something juice.
[00:05:04] I got the turmeric, ginger, lemon juice shot. I got the, uh, what else do I have in here? Oh, I got the, um, honey bombs with the garlic and the cinnamon and the, you know, like all the little things. And then I have like my other recipes for things that I need to make.
[00:05:22] Laura: And then you got mushroom water and you don't know what's in it.
[00:05:24] Kori: And then I got my mushroom water.
[00:05:25] Laura: But it's water. You know what I'm saying? Then I have my mushroom chocolate. Mmm. Dang, you really are, you got a little crunchy on me. Sip your mushroom drink. Random days. Let's go back to the earth. What can we do? I need to be able
[00:05:42] Kori: to run fast again. Let me lube all these joints up.
[00:05:47] Back up. Try to undo. 10 years of too much drinking and shit talking, do a little sauna and stretching and pilates and mushroom coffee. So if I got to run, I can run fast.
[00:06:03] Laura: That is you already are an all American in your younger days. So you're not that far off. You know, the only thing you have to do is be slow, faster than the slowest one.
[00:06:11] And it's me. It's me. You're fine. Don't worry. But you're not close, so I don't know what we got over here. I'm thinking it's like you're growing things, or you're eating things that you can eventually grow yourself in case things get weird. No, but
[00:06:27] Kori: I do have four plants. Congratulations! Outside, and I have a mini greenhouse.
[00:06:32] Laura: So tell me about the four whole plants. I'm sorry, I snorted. Tell me about the four whole plants you have.
[00:06:39] Kori: Oh my gosh. So like, if anybody knows me, they know I have this one plant that is a, a water lily or a life lily or something. Not a water
[00:06:49] Laura: lily. It's a peace lily.
[00:06:50] Kori: Oh, there you go. A peace lily. That's the one.
[00:06:53] A life lily. I know, exactly. Okay. Yeah. You
[00:07:01] Laura: can't kill them.
[00:07:02] Kori: Right. My grandparents gave it to me when we moved into this house. And it is the thing. Oh my God, a life lily. I'm dying. A life lily. And it's still alive. So it's my life lily. That's why you call it the life
[00:07:16] Laura: lily.
[00:07:17] Kori: And so it's like stayed alive. So um, but I was at this grocery store and you know how the grocery store just has some of the times those little potted plants.
[00:07:25] I want them every time I go
[00:07:27] Laura: in. It's
[00:07:27] Kori: very hard for me to resist. No, I was with the little one, the littlest one. And he likes to shop, you know, and he just will point to things. How about that? Yeah, we, we purchased an eggplant that day, too. Okay, because he wanted it, because it was pretty. Because he wanted
[00:07:40] Laura: it.
[00:07:41] Kori: Yeah.
[00:07:41] Laura: He doesn't know about the emoji,
[00:07:43] Kori: right?
[00:07:43] Laura: Okay.
[00:07:44] Kori: It's pretty. It's purple. Yeah. Yeah. So we got, uh, mint, basil. I thought it was cilantro, but it's not. It might be flat leaf parsley, but the leaves don't look right. The leaves look like a picture later. I'll look. Yeah. But it doesn't have like a strong cilantro flavor.
[00:08:02] Okay. So, I don't know. Um, and rosemary.
[00:08:05] Laura: Nice. Look at you. And you're keeping it in the greenhouse or you're keeping it in your house for the winter? It's in the greenhouse. Look at you. So, when you need a little freshy herb, you go snippy
[00:08:15] Kori: snippy. Mm hmm. Come on in. Mm hmm. And it's right outside the door to the, on the deck up against the window.
[00:08:19] And we get lots of sun back there. And when did you buy this?
[00:08:22] Laura: Uh, maybe a week or two weeks. You know that herb season is like spring summer, right? You're like, it's November. I want plants. I mean, they were at the grocery store. They are all the time for a shopper who is ready to grab one.
[00:08:37] Keith: Are they separated?
[00:08:39] Because mint can take over. Like mint is What do you mean
[00:08:42] Kori: separated?
[00:08:43] Keith: Like are they indiv are they all in like one bed or are they like sep Cause mint will dominate anything. Did you say bed?
[00:08:49] Kori: Okay, so let's just back it up here. Everyone, it's okay. You have
[00:08:52] Keith: like your little individual pots as opposed to like one long thing.
[00:08:56] Then that's good. Oh no.
[00:08:57] Kori: But wait. No. Pause. No. Okay. So like they're each in their own individual plastic pot things that came That you got from the store. That I got from the store.
[00:09:06] Laura: You've not transplanted yet.
[00:09:08] Kori: Yet. So that's something that I should be doing. No. So I'm going to tell you what it looks like.
[00:09:14] They're there, and then they're inside of, you know, one of those, like, half sheet trays, serving trays. Yes, to catch the water. They're inside of that, and then I pour water in the bottom of that.
[00:09:25] Laura: So they're self watering. Okay.
[00:09:27] Kori: Nice start. Congratulations.
[00:09:28] Laura: You probably need to transplant them.
[00:09:31] Kori: I'll tell you what I'm thankful for.
[00:09:32] Oh, wait. So, wait. No, but my mother in law's here, and she's, like, into the gardening and stuff. And so that's her project. She'll take
[00:09:38] Laura: care of it. There you go. Yeah. I was gonna say, I'm thankful for suddenly feeling like a, a botanist. Um, you're right that mint can take over. So make sure if you ever put this in like a planter together, like if you're putting them all like an herb garden planting together, you want to keep the mint in a pot or it'll take over your whole yard.
[00:10:00] Okay. Keep that separate. Even Keith knew that. I mean. Absolutely. I mean, he's a Floridian now, so maybe he's, maybe, yeah. No, no, I
[00:10:08] Keith: murder, I'm a serial plan murderer. So was I before my life really. Oh, well, if you have an emotional attachment to it, or, you know, like a sentimental reason to keep it alive, that's, that's good.
[00:10:21] For me, no. I, uh, a week will go by and be like, oh. Crap.
[00:10:26] Laura: Good. I like a plant that will tell you when it's thirsty and it's really forgiving, right? Like there are some plants that are sensitive that if, you know, if you've gone too far, it's just all downhill. It's not coming back. It knows you. It has your number and it says, no, it's not meant for me here, but there are other plants that will just look a little, little, little sleepy, little thirsty and then perk right back up.
[00:10:46] That's what I need in my life. Wow. Four plants, Kori. I think I'm in the twenties. Um, but. Um, it's mostly, it's just house plant kind of stuff. And I do have my herbs outside. We haven't had a frost yet, technically, so they're still going, but. Their days are numbered too.
[00:11:02] Kori: Okay, this is good. I'm always trying to find the, um, the gardening white lady who I can bring to the compound to keep us alive.
[00:11:10] Laura: Well, listen, if we're talking keep us alive. I'm tired
[00:11:12] Kori: in my bones probably from our ancestral work. And so it's like I don't have that energy anymore. I look Lord, let me find that a gardening white lady and see what she could do.
[00:11:21] Laura: Trademark, here I am. I'm here for you. I'm here for you. I am not as accomplished as a lot of other plant ladies I know, but I do like, I do like a little green in my life.
[00:11:33] Kori: My bestie's wife, she like has like a farm over there. Mm hmm. There you go. And, and it's like doing all kinds of, you know, got the whole thing roped off and keeping the peoples out and different kinds. Deer? The okras and the tomatoes and the different kinds of lettuce and the different herbs and then the herbs have taken flight and now they're all over.
[00:11:56] Whole rows of raspberries and blueberries and that's just outside. And then inside, or upstairs, there's like all these other things and then inside there's other things. And she's a chemist by training.
[00:12:10] Laura: So she's testing that soil. She's getting optimal conditions.
[00:12:14] Kori: Yeah, yeah. It's pretty cool. But, so today, when we were texting, I was on my way to the grocery store to get some of the, um, aromatics that I need for one of the dishes I'm going to make for Thanksgiving.
[00:12:26] Yeah. I wasn't, had there not been more people coming, I was not going to make it for Thanksgiving. I was going to make it for Christmas.
[00:12:33] Laura: But now, Steve. But now. Right, Steve and them are coming. Steve pulled up a damn chair and I gotta get some aromatics.
[00:12:41] Kori: But it's this, it's this, uh, poached salmon.
[00:12:43] Laura: Mmm. Um,
[00:12:44] Kori: it's.
[00:12:45] You've made this before. I've made it last year. Can you tell, can you send me the recipe? I'm sorry. Yeah, it's Gordon Ramsey post him and Google it. Yes, ma'am. And and actually I uh, I had Chat GPT do that shit for me. So I have all the ingredients and the recipe and the thing I like put the video in Chat and I was like
[00:13:02] Laura: make a shopping list
[00:13:03] Kori: make a shopping list and give me the basic Recipe and so that's what I have.
[00:13:08] I'll send that to you. Nice And it then gives you the link to the video for more details.
[00:13:13] Laura: Great. So I can watch Gordon personally.
[00:13:16] Kori: Yeah Like seriously When I open the video, my mouth starts watering. Just like looking at the image of the salmon. It's so good.
[00:13:27] Laura: You also have the memory to tie it to how tasty it was, right?
[00:13:30] So you're, you're ready. And I
[00:13:32] Kori: ordered like, this time I ordered some of the seasonings that I didn't have that I like subbed other things for last time. I ordered them this time. So I'm going to be able to use
[00:13:46] Laura: like, yeah. I also so appreciate a tried and true recipe because I will every once in a while be like, let me find something new and I'll find some things with some ratings and pull it in.
[00:13:54] And we had a loser of a recipe last week and I mean to the point where we were like it's time to eat that again for leftovers and I looked at my husband and I was like, No, I can't. I will order out. I will. We have to save dinner. We have to. It's the day. Life is too hard to have a sad dinner that you have to look forward to the sad dinner.
[00:14:13] Yeah. Twice? Then have a reheated, and have a reheated sad dinner? Mmm. Oof. Yeah. It's the thing is, it's every crockpot recipe I've ever made disappoints me. Yes. And this fell in that category. Yes. It tastes like crockpot. It just tastes like it's been sitting all day. It smells real good. What, so I have, do you have, do you have a crock pot or a, uh, what's the other one?
[00:14:35] The instapot. I don't have an instapot. I have a crock pot and I hate it. I'm just, I'm only going to do like cider or hot chocolate in it from now on. Or chili? No, I cook that stovetop. Oh. Anyway, I just, so I'm thankful for tried and true recipes and recommendations. Amen. So I will take your salmon. I will take that salmon.
[00:14:54] Yeah. All right. All right. So we've come up with, we're thankful for. Tricky family. And our house plants and we've got Goldilocks in the mix. So I don't know where we're going from here. What are you guys thankful for?
[00:15:11] Kori: You
[00:15:11] Laura: all.
[00:15:12] Kori: Let's be really
[00:15:13] Laura: honest. For sure.
[00:15:15] Kori: Like.
[00:15:16] Laura: I love my Fridays when
[00:15:17] Kori: I have no idea how we managed to figure this out.
[00:15:21] But we have managed to figure out. Like a full on friendship, not being in the same place. For work. Or geographically. For life. You're right. Geographically. That's what I mean. Like not being in the same place as like physically. Not even working in the
[00:15:39] Laura: same orgs. Having very different life setups and commitments.
[00:15:44] Kori: Yeah.
[00:15:44] Laura: And phase of life and all of that. And
[00:15:47] Kori: like we stay connected. We check on each other. It's like really a special, cool thing.
[00:15:55] Laura: I'm grateful for this group too, the group chat and all
[00:15:58] Kori: the group chat and all. Yeah,
[00:16:00] Keith: you know, you both have had a profound impact on my life. We've talked about it, I think on the podcast before, but I don't know how much detail I've gone into, but after the pandemic, I had like gone into business for myself and over the course of a couple of years, I realized that the podcast business isn't what you think it is, it's not like, I'm going to make a bunch of cool shows and do all this creative work and have a living.
[00:16:24] You end up doing like real estate and financial podcasts for, uh, really bad people. And like, it's just not the kind of work that I've ever wanted to do and didn't want to do. Um, and I was kind of at a crossroads and the two of you together helped me find a different path. And, uh, It's one that has allowed me to be so, so much happier than I was just a couple years ago.
[00:16:50] And it never would have happened if I didn't have you ladies in my life. So um, I love you both.
[00:16:57] Laura: Thank you. That's really sweet. I think you will, the universe has a way and you would have found that path, but I'm grateful that we were, that we're all on it together. That's really sweet. Yay. Yay. We love you too.
[00:17:10] I'm grateful. I am grateful for. Um, good conversations, especially in the last month or so. And again, I know we're not going to talk doom and gloom in an election again, but like, it's been really, I feel like it's been a bit of a catalyst for me to have conversations with people that I maybe wasn't that close with to just ask them questions.
[00:17:32] Um, you know, like I get a monthly shot for a vitamin deficiency. I get like a vitamin. Is it B or D? I think it's B. I think it's B and I take the D is the pill. But, um, anyway, regardless, I have vitamin issues. My body has issues. And so I've, I've sat with this pharmacist now for, what, 12 times, like we're almost at a year of, of getting these shots.
[00:17:53] And we always have this like really nice conversation. I genuinely care about her. And um, the, the election came up, right? And I learned very surprisingly and a little sadly that she didn't vote the way I assumed she would based on her age or, you know, gender, education, all of that. And it was, I got a little brave, like I got a little brave with her.
[00:18:14] And just said, like, tell me why, you know, what was, what was the reason for you? You know, help me understand. Whereas before I would have been like, okay, good. So noted. You're in the weird minority. I'm just going to move on. Mm hmm. And I think, um, and that's one of several conversations where I've leaned in a little bit more to curiosity as opposed to being like, okay, so noted.
[00:18:35] Don't worry. There's also a so noted component in the back of my brain. Right? But it's also a, okay, I need to understand your perspective better because I thought I understood it based on positionality and apparently there's something else going on here. So getting a little bit braver in conversations is something I'm, I'm grateful for as a silver lining of a really weird, hard time.
[00:18:55] Look at you pushing past polite. I'm trying. I mean, it's easy to do with y'all, right? You're my people. You know, we say that, right? Like do push past polite and put in spaces that are safe for you. But I feel like. This time in the world is making me think about ways I can extend spaces that I previously might not have engaged in before.
[00:19:16] Kori: Yeah, I feel like that's a necessary thing. Um, alright,
[00:19:22] Laura: what else? Gratitude.
[00:19:24] Kori: I'm really grateful for random conversations. This is related to what you were saying, you know, like, uh, I was on this earlier this week. Me and my bestie were gonna go to Costco after I dropped off the kids. But there was like 45 minutes between when Costco, when I was in the car and when Costco actually opened.
[00:19:45] And so, if you know me, you know that like, if I go home, that's a wrap, friends. Like,
[00:19:50] Laura: I'm not coming back out.
[00:19:52] Kori: She has poured the wine. It is over. Right. Like, that, that, that's a wrap. So, I, it's better for me to just stay out to do those things. So, I call, I call them up. I'm like, hey, You want to go over and get a mimosa at the Silver Diner to wait for Costco to open because they're in the same, same shopping center?
[00:20:09] And he's like, yeah, cool, I'll, I'll get some pancakes, whatever. So we're sitting at the bar, which we never do. And we ended up talking to this woman. For like 45 minutes. We didn't even make it.
[00:20:21] Laura: He was also a patron at the bar or a bartender? He was also a
[00:20:22] Kori: patron at the bar. We never even made it to Costco.
[00:20:26] But she was dropping all of these freaking dimes! Like these parenting dimes she was telling us about her daughter and where her daughter goes to school and like all these things, these affirming things and all these like, Um, strategies that she used to support her daughter's financial literacy from an early age and like all kinds of stuff.
[00:20:48] You're like, hold
[00:20:49] Laura: on, let me write this down.
[00:20:50] Kori: I got her number.
[00:20:54] Laura: Nothing about that surprises me.
[00:20:59] Kori: And, and, but that, like, I'm grateful for those kinds of conversations. Those things happen often where. You know, you, someone's sitting there and you like make a comment or this for me, at least, right? May you make a comment and it extends into this like, really beautiful, lovely human, lovely exchange.
[00:21:18] Kori: Yeah, and I'm really, I'm really grateful for those things because I feel, I feel the lack of humanity. on a large scale in so many ways. And so like having those kinds of moments with a stranger at a restaurant. Yeah. And like connecting over parenting and blackness and womanhood and like hard things and you know, like growing wealth and legacy for your children.
[00:21:45] It's just so special and I, I really appreciate that. So, shout out to Linda Sims. Hey, Linda.
[00:21:51] Laura: She's gonna, she won't put your number online. No, we won't. Um, no, I'm leaning, again, I'm leaning into that more, both in, in random places, but also like, I have a new neighbor that moved in less than a year ago, I guess.
[00:22:03] Correct me if I'm wrong, uh, if you're listening. Um, like, we've just started initiating taking walks together, right? She's got younger littles, and so I'm like, how can I be sounding bored? How was your morning? She's like, mornings, they're so hard. Um, or, you know, I've been volunteering at the kids school.
[00:22:19] Again, a lot of this stems from, I guess, my larger gratitude, which is feeling like I own my time now. Mm hmm. Because I've left. corporate space and done things on my own. Um, I'd be lying if I said it was all going completely smoothly, but like the, the, the, the added benefits of having my time to do with, with, with it, what I want in ways that I feel like are making a difference is really, really lovely.
[00:22:44] Yeah. It's opening up those opportunities. Yeah. Gives me some breathing room where I felt like I didn't before. You know, I think about like, I can embrace a day when, you know, there's a traffic jam or I have extra time with kiddos or they want my attention because it's not a stressor of, I've got to get these other things done.
[00:23:02] Kori: Yeah.
[00:23:03] Laura: Right? I own my time. I don't have a bunch of meetings. I can rearrange tomorrow and I'll be with you now.
[00:23:08] Kori: Mm hmm. It's
[00:23:09] Laura: really, really nice. That's really nice. I'm very grateful for that this year to, to have taken that leap. Yeah. And having a partner that would, you know, back me up on that. Same.
[00:23:19] Kori: It's like that.
[00:23:19] We both did this in 2024.
[00:23:22] Laura: Mm hmm. You made, you helped me get brave for it, but yes, yes. Yeah. And again, it's not for every season of life. There are times when employment makes sense. Um, maybe even, I, I'm not a stay at home girly, like a never work ever kind of situation, but I'm sure there's seasons of life for some families where that makes sense too.
[00:23:38] Yeah. Yeah. Um, but being able to, to take the work that I want to do has been really, really nice. Um, so I'm grateful for that too.
[00:23:50] Kori: I told you how we got Asana.
[00:23:52] Mm hmm.
[00:23:53] Kori: Bro. Oh, is it changing your life? Let me tell you something. Tell me. This is like the one of those moments where, you know, my husband, I was like, you know, I just said it.
[00:24:04] I was like, Oh man, I love a sauna. And he was like, did you say a sauna?
[00:24:11] Laura: I've been thinking it and didn't have the green light to do it, but I think I want that. And this was a Costco connection too, right?
[00:24:21] Kori: I think we got it from Lowe's. I think we got it from
[00:24:23] Laura: Lowe's.
[00:24:24] Kori: But he like, redesigned and like, redid the whole, um, we have this like, storage space, this big storage space.
[00:24:30] He like, reconfigured it for Not anymore, you got
[00:24:32] Laura: a sauna room. We have
[00:24:34] Kori: a sa no, yeah, but he like, reconfigured it for like, flooring and shelving and like, all this Ikea stuff, so it looks really nice in there. And he did it all dark so that the sauna room could also be dark. Dark in terms of lighting or dark in terms of color?
[00:24:50] Color. He chose a dark color. So then we're going to adjust the lighting so that we can have like dimmer lights and it still feels dark in there because It was like, uh, unfinished space, basically, you know, so it was just like white. How often are you using this? It's been in for two weeks and I think I've used it four times.
[00:25:10] Okay. Yeah. All right. That's exciting. Between the two of us, like, it's been used six times. Okay. And the boys used it. Do the boys love it? Yes. We only put it up to like a hundred degrees or something. We don't get it hot, hot in there, but like they were in there with their iPads.
[00:25:28] Laura: So cute. They're, yeah, the bougie life is, is working for them just fine.
[00:25:33] Yeah.
[00:25:33] Kori: Big time. And so that is one of the things it's a, it's such a nice space. I told myself that I wanted to start reading more and um, when I'm not in there with Daniel or sometimes when I am, I'll just take a book. And there's music you can pipe through it. And so we'll have, you know, our coffee shop vibes on.
[00:25:53] And you'll have your coffee. And I'm like, I am so
[00:25:58] Laura: overheated thinking
[00:25:59] Kori: about no, no, no, no. Cold ice water, ice water.
[00:26:01] Okay.
[00:26:02] Kori: Okay. Yeah. But like, we'll have our coffee shop vibes, music on and like, I'll have my book in there and just like sitting there. It's just, Oh, it's like a shower down here. And so we can just come out and hop in the shower.
[00:26:17] And then go on about your day. Like, I can, I can be at my desk by like 10 15 if I turn it on before I drop the boys off.
[00:26:27] Laura: He gets up to temp.
[00:26:28] Kori: And it keeps getting up to temp or close and I can get in there and then like, yeah.
[00:26:35] Laura: I love it. And what are the benefits you're seeing for you apart from just enjoying it?
[00:26:39] Kori: And that's enough, but I'm just curious. Well, one of them is just like in my body I'm feeling more relaxed. I've been doing other things too for my skin. So I feel like my skin is starting to. shine differently. Like it's even accepting my makeup differently. Um, like my blush is sitting on my skin a little bit.
[00:26:57] Like it's sitting on this, my skin more. That's what it's doing. Okay. Um, I don't know, but it's just nice. Like I get out of there and I feel just like a billion bucks. Hmm.
[00:27:08] Laura: Good purchase. Yeah, we're gonna need some, we're gonna need lots of feeling like a million bucks over the next couple years. Just, that's a good idea.
[00:27:16] Kori: We got our rug from Turkey and it feels like butter on your
[00:27:21] Laura: feet. Is this for a living room? I would never. Between kids and pets, God, you are a brave woman. But kids are fine. Kids are fine. Yeah, the kids
[00:27:34] Kori: are fine. We, we were. When we were there, the, the owner of the shop was like literally showing us all these pictures of like his dogs all over it, rolling and doing all these things.
[00:27:44] And he's like, yeah, it does vacuum. It's fine. It's the hand.
[00:27:48] Laura: It's not the fur I'm talking about. It's the, whenever they don't feel well, there's like all this square footage of pure wood floors and they go right for that rug.
[00:27:55] Kori: Nice soft rug. Yeah.
[00:27:57] Laura: Be crazy. Keep his shaking his head. It's real. You know it.
[00:28:00] Yeah.
[00:28:01] Kori: Yeah. No, I know. I used to have a dog. I get that. So, but we don't have a dog anymore. It's just kids. And, and now Jay, he loves it. 'cause you go, you all know he loves Smooth Criminal. That's his jam.
[00:28:14] Laura: Oh no. Da
[00:28:19] Kori: tell us. Okay.
[00:28:21] Keith: That's
[00:28:21] Kori: a good song. He has a hat. That's a great song that he puts on when the, when the song starts, Michael Jackson flips a coin. He needs to have his coin so he can flip his coin.
[00:28:31] Laura: That's so cute.
[00:28:32] Kori: He has like the inflections and he loves that rug because it's like slippery and he can spin
[00:28:40] Laura: on it like Michael Jackson.
[00:28:42] I thought you meant he would just pet it for the word smooth, be like smooth criminal. Dang. He's performing. He does the whole thing. Isn't it interesting to think about who they're going to be when they're older? Like seeing signs of this when they're little. Yeah. I love it. Yeah. Both your boys, you've really done a really nice job of immersing them in music.
[00:29:01] Thank you. You're welcome. You do a really good job of just having that as the soundtrack of your day.
[00:29:05] Kori: And it hel it's, it's, I woke them up the other day to Michael Jackson. Uh, cause Daniel wasn't here and sometimes they were both in my bed and they're sometimes just, you know, it's grumpy in the morning, I ought to go.
[00:29:19] So I put the speaker in the bathroom and turned on bed. You know your bed, your bed, your bed is mine, you know it. And so Jay like looks up, he's like. Can you start
[00:29:34] Laura: bad
[00:29:35] Kori: over?
[00:29:40] Laura: I want bad again. Redo that. It's like, yeah, buddy. Come on, come into the bathroom so you can hear it. I love it. That's a fun way to wake up. They're fun. Anywho.
[00:29:53] Keith: Um, during, well, in the wake of the election, I think a lot of us, some of our, our personal audits were like, okay, I think I was misled. I think I wasn't judging things correctly because of my bubble.
[00:30:08] You heard that a lot. Everybody is realized that they have their kind of like bubble and they were seeing the world through that. And the election was, uh, results were kind of like a hard awakening, um, to the fact that your bubble is not the world. But, uh, I would like to say that I'm thankful for my bubble.
[00:30:28] Um, whether it's distorting my, my view of the larger world or not, it doesn't matter. I, I really enjoy the caliber, quality, and kind of people that I've managed to surround myself with. Both of you included, we already talked about that, but sort of on a, on a day to day basis down here. Um, I've been really lucky in terms of finding like like minded.
[00:30:55] I went without that for a long time. And, uh, I made a, as you both know, I made like a really radical move down here, and was kind of like I knew a couple people, and it was a huge leap of faith, um, whether I was gonna, Just be limited to those two people or start a new chapter of my life. And I've just been, I've been really lucky to find people who share a lot of this, the same interests as me.
[00:31:21] My days aren't empty, which was a big fear, and I feel pretty fulfilled.
[00:31:27] Laura: It's wonderful.
[00:31:28] Keith: On a daily basis. So yeah.
[00:31:30] Laura: Did you feel like it, were you craving that in Philly? Or was it just the, the cold temperatures that really made, gave you the push? Like, did you feel like you had community there too? Uh,
[00:31:39] Keith: not really.
[00:31:39] And I,
[00:31:41] Laura: I was All the more reason why this is a win.
[00:31:42] Keith: Yeah. I was one of those people who had the same group of friends since kindergarten. We've talked about that on the podcast, I think, before. And it was a small group and it was kind of limiting. Um, and, you know, Yeah, I think part of the reason that it wasn't the driving force for me to leave Philly, but it was a reason why Why it was easy for me to leave because I didn't have a like a strong Social network and this fulfilling group of people around that was like keeping me there Yeah I just, last night, I did a pedal pub for the first time.
[00:32:20] What is that? A what? A
[00:32:21] Laura: pedal pub?
[00:32:22] Keith: Yeah. What is that? Like a pub for all
[00:32:24] Laura: on bikes?
[00:32:24] Keith: No. It's like a, it's like a big ball. Oh, the one
[00:32:27] Kori: that you can ride? Like a vehicle and you ride and drink? Oh, I love it. I love it. Can you do like the You are called for the drinkies. Do do do do so. For the stinky. Do do.
[00:32:38] Laura: Do do. I want to see one where you wear the helmet and all the, the straw that goes over your glasses and you just drink while you're, you wear the thing.
[00:32:45] That's great. I bet that was fun.
[00:32:47] Keith: It was really cool. Um, I knew a few people there, but there were a lot of new people who I got to meet. Um, and, uh, after that, they like dropped us off at the bar and we played trivia with like a bunch of other friends and it, you know, it just hit me that I have like a very diverse kind of sprawling social net down here and I am thankful.
[00:33:08] Laura: Yeah, I love that. And you know, that's, it's much more, it's much less common for men to have that. And I think especially younger guys, like I consider us still younger to some degree. Right. But like when I'm learning, we're like squarely middle aged. Okay, fine. Fine. It's unusual for dudes, I think across the spectrum, but something I heard out of election results, like loud and clear was that young men.
[00:33:35] You can decide if we're in that category or not, Keith, but like young folks are, are less connected, are feeling very, you know, that's why they're, they're actually going back to religion at higher rates for better for worse. Um, but they're trying to find a script, right? I need to know who to be. And the fact that you've found people that are affirming of who you want to be, I think, is wonderful.
[00:33:56] Keith: Mm hmm. Yeah. I, I, I wouldn't call myself young. Sorry, Laura. Sorry. Well, listen, we can dream. But I think when you're like 40 and over, it actually can be Harder. It has its own difficulties, um, in terms of meeting people who aren't just like, You know, in a marriage and have kids and aren't looking for new friends.
[00:34:17] Laura: Or have their friends since kindergarten. So they're good. Yeah. They've got their card filled, right? Mm
[00:34:21] Keith: hmm. Exactly.
[00:34:23] Kori: And I, can I just say something about that? I feel like that should be a no such thing. How do you have your card filled? You're blocking so many opportunities and blessings and gifts into your life by having that mindset of like, Oh, I'm not having any new friends.
[00:34:36] Like I've met people though, that that's how they operate. No, I know. I agree. I know that that's like a thing that totally exists. But, um, you know, you're missing, you are really having the potential to miss out on great relationships, people, even if it's not forever, right? People can come into your life for a reason and a season, and if you're always feeling like you're blocking people, then you might miss out on some of those, like, seasonal interactions, connections, relationships that could do something transformative for you.
[00:35:05] They were just positioned there to do a certain thing, and you didn't allow them to do it.
[00:35:10] Laura: Yep. I think this balance of curiosity and willingness to meet new people and have courageous conversations perhaps post election that you didn't have before, right, tying this all together. And having your, your network of like minded, your sense of community, your protectors, people who are going to have your back if things get weird, I think is a really important thing to have both.
[00:35:31] Right? But also
[00:35:31] Kori: those people you want them to challenge you, right? You want to have those people who, yeah, may share some of your views, but also are willing to be like, yo. What the fuck? Look at yourself here and let's, let's look a little deeper. Let's unpack that a tiny bit or, you know, why, why do you think that you want those people to, who are not just like, can, will rant with you and agree, but will also challenge some of your thinking and help you to think beyond some of your understanding and your push past some of your assumptions, right?
[00:36:03] You want those people to, that you can trust to have those
[00:36:07] Laura: conversations with. Yep. Because they care about you and you know, they have your best interest at heart that I want you to be your best self. Totally.
[00:36:14] Kori: Yeah. Yeah. And they want you to have a fullness of enriches of your experience and not miss out on some of those people who might show up for a little purpose, a specific purpose.
[00:36:25] Right?
[00:36:26] Keith: I have a very, very dear friend down here. One of the, the friends that I knew before I moved here and was part of the reason I decided to settle here. And she is very challenging. Um, she does not take. My bullshit at all. And, uh, it pushes me really does push me. Um, and it makes a difference. I can't tell you how much of a difference it's made.
[00:36:51] In my life to have somebody who loves you, respects you, tells you that they love you and respect you. And also at the same time says you could do better. Um, it's really important. Okay. So shout out to Mo.
[00:37:02] Laura: Mo, who's in my friends, you might know on Facebook and I'm always like, do I invite her? Oh, I don't want to freak her out.
[00:37:11] Go for it. It's Keith's bestie. Maybe I should. It's me. You might know. Okay. We'll see. You get permission.
[00:37:18] Keith: Yeah. No, you absolutely can go for it. Okay. And while we're doing shout outs, one of the people in my friend group actually became a regular listener of the show and they love it and they look forward to it.
[00:37:27] So hi, Cindy. Hello, Cindy.
[00:37:29] Kori: Hi, Cindy. Hey, Cindy. Cindy
[00:37:31] Laura: Lou. Glad you're here. So fun. So fun. Um, I've had a couple new people in my periphery that have started listening and have made comments out of the blue. Um, and And one of them's like, when am I going to meet Kori? Like, when can I, like, how can we meet her?
[00:37:45] And I was like, I, I mean, this is a little logistically challenging, friends, but uh, we may have to do a, I'll have to host a party one time when you come down and just Yeah, do a live session. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, in the living room. I love it. I love it. Keep him like holding his breath. He's like, this is an acoustic nightmare.
[00:38:06] Yeah. I'm like, whatever. It's fine. It's fine. Don't worry. People don't listen for the audio quality and his little heart dies a little bit inside, shrinks two sizes.
[00:38:19] Kori: Now I'm like that person. I'm like, Oh, whenever someone tells me they want to start a podcast, I was like, Oh, really? Okay. And I just like take out Laura's list.
[00:38:30] I'm all the shit I did first. Have you done this? Have you done that? Have you done this? What about that? Have you thought about this? Please don't start
[00:38:36] Laura: just recording on your
[00:38:38] Kori: iPhone. Please
[00:38:39] Laura: have
[00:38:39] Kori: a, please have a plan. Yeah.
[00:38:41] Laura: Or not. I mean, you can always get better as
[00:38:42] Kori: you go, but. Yeah, but have a little bit of a plan, you know, just like, you know, do you, are you gonna, is it wholesale?
[00:38:50] Do you want it to be edited? You know, do you plan on, you're gonna plan what you're talking about and have high points is the center of the. of this like a product and everything's going to come back to just like that kind of stuff even or is this like who's your audience who do you want to be listening to this thing how are you going to kind of direct it to those people or you know try to get those people engaged just that kind of stuff have you thought about just those things to So it isn't just you talking randomly about whatever, it's like there's some purpose tied to it and people can find some sort of thread.
[00:39:25] Yes.
[00:39:25] Laura: But I, we always field questions on that, we're happy to. And as a matter of fact, a friend of mine, Autumn, said that she works in a school and said that some of her students wanted to start one. And I was like, great, great. Like, yeah, let's talk about this. What you're talking about is a hosting platform.
[00:39:38] Okay, let's talk about what we use and why. And this is kind of fun. It's kind of fun. Yeah. Um, okay. Rapid fire. A couple things that just came to mind that I'm thankful for. Um, fresh air and access to fresh air, like, and water, uh, which is not a given in these here United States or the world, right? But like I have space, I can be outside and be free to go and do and walk and let my dogs off leash and walk to the creek and be on the back deck and walk on our path in the woods.
[00:40:09] Like it is such a luxury and it is so good for my soul and I don't take it for granted at all. It is. Um, and another thing, Marco Polo, the app, has been, I think, as I 2024, really transformative for a couple of my friendships. Oh, wow. I had, like, again, we were friendly, but we weren't close. She moved away and just reached out to me to, like, we started a little group thread with her, another mutual friend of mine who I am more close with locally, and her, and it's, she's moved out of the area.
[00:40:42] And I tell you what, we talk to each other every day.
[00:40:45] Kori: Every day. You know what? Same. I have a group of friends. We don't do that now, but when we first, this was like in 2019, and all the way through the pandemic.
[00:40:56] Yeah.
[00:40:57] Kori: We were on Marco Polo. Like, every day or every other day, and then FaceTiming regularly.
[00:41:03] It's wonderful. And Marco Polo, like, really reinforced and solidified our friendship, too.
[00:41:07] Laura: Yes, in ways I really didn't expect, but, like, I, if they're not, if they don't call in and, uh, or leave me a little message, I'm like, is everybody okay? Yeah. Actually, I got the flu. I'm like, I knew it. I've been worried.
[00:41:19] My mom's senses were tingling, but, um, but it's been just lovely because it's so hard to our point earlier about logistics and keeping up, right? It's another tool that allows you face to face. Like it's not just voice. It's not just text or memes, which is also a love language and I appreciate that, but you know, it's completely asynchronous.
[00:41:37] Leave a video. It's not eating up space on my phone. It better, that's why we stopped. Oh, did the app, was it better? It was better. You were in the golden age of Marco Polo? Mm hmm. Mm hmm. Wah,
[00:41:47] Kori: wah, wah. Yeah. And like, you could like, you could talk on it, talk through it live. Like, you could, you know, you could show up when someone's talking and like.
[00:41:56] leave them feedback, you know, like you would do on a live for Instagram or something, you know? And so like, they knew you were there. And so then when the next person watched it, that was there.
[00:42:07] So it's
[00:42:08] Kori: like, Oh, Kori wasn't, or you could add into the, it was, so that kind of stuff. It like, there were these moments where it would ding.
[00:42:14] They would be leaving the video so you could like almost be in conversation and kind of be responding to Yeah. What they're saying. They took those
[00:42:23] Laura: things away or they made 'em pro features, right? Yeah. They made 'em pro. Yeah, they made pro features. They monetized it in some way. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Mm-Hmm.
[00:42:28] Well, I'll even take my free version and tell you it has been a game changer in this last year, year, my life. Yeah, for sure.
[00:42:32] Kori: For sure. But that part of our slowdown, you know what I mean? Like we, we were in those eras where we could do that and then it was like, oh, this just feels more clunky now. 'cause we were doing these other things, you know?
[00:42:42] Just call me clunky,
[00:42:43] Laura: Mick Clunkerson. But we still use it.
[00:42:45] Kori: We will still use it to leave each other just messages. We
[00:42:49] Laura: will still use it. That's really nice. It
[00:42:50] Kori: is
[00:42:51] Laura: really nice. Fresh air, Marco Polo. In fact, sometimes I combine the two. I'll be walking and leave a message. And I'm like, sorry if I sound like I'm out of breath.
[00:42:59] It's because I am. And one of them is a few years older than me, but not many. And she started walking in her neighborhood and leaving messages. She's been walking with a weighted vest. Which is like a perimenopause thing and I was like, well, I've not been influenced yet. Tell me what I need to know. So anyway.
[00:43:16] Yeah. We keep each other posted. There's probably like a 10 year span between oldest to youngest and I'm in the middle. And so it's, it's kind of nice to have that range, but I mean, you know, having a weighted vest
[00:43:25] Kori: is just something that you might want to do anyway, because, you know, as we age our muscles and bones become less dense.
[00:43:32] And so like your muscle mass begins to diminish and your bone density begins to diminish. So having a weighted vest adds a little extra weight that helps support your bone density.
[00:43:41] Laura: Yeah, I think like
[00:43:44] Kori: I, I will sometimes just do like wrist weights and ankle weights and like spend the day just
[00:43:48] Laura: walking around and using those.
[00:43:50] The more you know, star goes across the screen. Here we go. We need to, this is something else we need to do for ourselves. Okay. Mm
[00:43:57] Kori: hmm. So noted. Mm hmm. So whatever is the, like, most comfortable way for you. But having a little extra weight on there, on your body, helps with your muscle tone and button density.
[00:44:09] Laura: Oh, I thought of one more thing I have to say that I'm really thankful for. The used, uh, what do you call, KitchenAid stand mixer that I bought in our neighborhood listserv. Yeah. Yeah. That I just take out, leave on the counter, and my daughter makes cookies. Ellie? Yes. Completely unattended. She has her favorite recipe.
[00:44:25] She has her little Google Doc. I don't need to do anything. When is she
[00:44:29] Kori: coming up here to be with me for a little while?
[00:44:31] Laura: She would love nothing more. We like cookies. Leave her alone. They're the best. Yes. Yes. She would love that. She would love that. Oh, man. Damn. So, like, I've been God, you know, I took a nap yesterday and I woke up to more cookies.
[00:44:44] Tell her artwork up in my office. I'll tell her. She will love that. She will love that. Oh, there it is. Oh, I see it. I love it. And she named it. She calls it Josephine the Mixing Queen. That's the name of her mixer. She's like, Can you put out Josephine for me? It's a little heavy. It's like, Got it. Lay it on the counter.
[00:45:02] She takes care of the rest. So I just keep my house stocked with salt. Unsalted butter. Brown sugar, vanilla, flour, knock yourself out.
[00:45:12] Kori: If you, like, once a year, Costco puts that Kerrygold butter on sale.
[00:45:21] Laura: I've never cooked with Kerrygold. Is it amazing? Oh, I butter I use. It's insane. Literally the only butter I use.
[00:45:27] Kori: Y'all, here I am, 42, learning about Kerrygold. it, or I've seen it. You will notice the difference. This is what you'll notice, that when you melt regular butter. It releases a lot of water and then like the saturated, whatever. And when you melt Kerrygold butter, it like melts like cream almost, right? But that's all I use.
[00:45:51] And you can get four packs of them at, of the big blocks at Costco. And they have the salted and the unsalted. And like once a year or something, they're usually, well, they, I don't know how much they are now because we have a ton of it, but they were usually like 14. 99 for the, for the pack before, but it goes on sale for 11.
[00:46:15] 99 and you get a pound of butter, basically, I guess it's like four Big blocks, and each one of those blocks is worth like four sticks or something like that. Okay. It's
[00:46:24] Keith: like four pounds of butter for eleven bucks.
[00:46:26] Kori: Yeah. Alright. And it's good quality butter. And your cookie, her, Ellie's cookies are gonna be slammin when you start buying that butter.
[00:46:35] Laura: I'm afraid, because they're already really good. I'm gonna polish this shit off. Okay. So noted. So noted.
[00:46:43] Kori: Right. I might put a pack of that butter in the mail to Ellie for Christmas. Ha ha ha ha! Freeze it and send it along.
[00:46:50] Laura: Be like, two days, get it here in two days. Get it there in
[00:46:53] Kori: two days. Here you go, boo.
[00:46:54] I'll put it on her Christmas list. That's hilarious. Enjoy these. You want to know something that I don't know if this is like what I'm grateful for, but I just think it's hilarious. G wants, first of all, he has an Amazon book that he's been working on for at least six weeks circling items. Oh, like the catalog?
[00:47:14] Mm hmm. Mm hmm.
[00:47:15] Kori: Love it. Yeah. And, um, but we're like, you. You know, you're not getting all this stuff, just let's start there. Prioritize. Prioritize, like right, we're going to pick three things where you can circle all the things. We're going to put them in a cart. You're going to select three things. Then we'll write our letter to Santa.
[00:47:31] And hopefully Santa will bring you those three things. But you gotta see if Santa is Jeff Bezos. Oh my God. This is so weird. Mind bending. So weird. And um, but you know what he, what he's asking for, for, for Christmas now. And he's on gift
[00:47:47] Laura: cards.
[00:47:48] Kori: Yes, girl. That's hilarious. And there's two reasons for it. One is because he likes movies.
[00:47:58] Oh. And so he can get his digital downloads.
[00:48:02] Laura: That's smart. That's hilarious. And then he likes, he likes toys and, and costumes and things. That is so smart that he thought of that. Yeah. He was like, yeah. I want access to more of that catalog. So he asked Nona for that. Smart. Mm hmm. Get it for him. Yeah. Yeah.
[00:48:18] So noted. I'll have to put that in my little list, my mental list. Mm hmm. Mm hmm. And the other one wants smooth carpets and coins for his song and a smooth criminal hat. And smooth criminal
[00:48:28] Kori: hat. So cute. I'll send y'all a video. Super cute. So, so, so cute. And, yeah, so it's like Jay, his, his jam is Smooth Criminal and the Moonwalker movie, Michael Jackson Moonwalker movie from 1988.
[00:48:41] And, uh, Jay's, I mean, G's, um, Bad. That's his, that's his jam. These kids have more pop culture knowledge than I do of that era. And, and then Thriller, Michael Jackson Thriller for Jay. And Sing released a thriller this season. That's G. Okay.
[00:49:01] Mm
[00:49:02] Keith: hmm. I saw that text you sent about when he was upset, playing, you were playing the wrong version or something.
[00:49:09] Kori: Rage screaming.
[00:49:11] Laura: Like straight
[00:49:12] Kori: up. Rage screaming.
[00:49:14] Laura: If you can scream in a tub, that's actually impressive because for me, the water just chills them right out. Like, if they're having a tantrum, I used to be like, we're getting in the tub. And all of a sudden they're like, calm. He was real mad. He was big mad.
[00:49:26] Kori: But the thing was, we had been playing all of his jams. He had had like six or seven jams in a Jay soundtrack
[00:49:37] Laura: kind of night. Yes.
[00:49:38] Kori: Yeah. It was like all MJ. And this was the like, the first song, aside from Bad, that G was like, Ooh, yeah! Scene thriller! Like, that was like his reaction. And then Jay got over here, Rae screaming his face.
[00:49:55] He was like, not even that far away from him physically.
[00:49:59] Laura: And that did come to blows? You separated that just in time. Yeah.
[00:50:03] Kori: G was just singing his song.
[00:50:06] Laura: Aw,
[00:50:06] Kori: buddy, let him live. Don't yuck my yum. So that's what happened is I was like, No, sir. You need to let him live. You are not going to scream cry in his face
[00:50:21] Kori: for the one song that he's been excited about and Your song is going to play next.
[00:50:31] Mm hmm. Chill.
[00:50:33] Kori: No one, everyone's getting their song. This one came on.
[00:50:39] Laura: Let him be. Yours is
[00:50:40] Kori: next. Let him be. Stop scream crying in his face.
[00:50:45] Laura: Or I'll dunk you. Get a little, little, little squirt gun in there. Or
[00:50:48] Kori: we're going to get out and we're just going to go to bed.
[00:50:51] Laura: Yes. Yeah. Fed in bed. Good night. Yeah.
[00:50:54] Exactly. Lights out. Lights out, Bri. Oh. Mm
[00:50:58] Kori: hmm. Mm hmm.
[00:50:59] Laura: You're telling me you can't handle life right now, so you need to go ahead. And he's, and
[00:51:02] Kori: he's, he stopped and then his jam came on and he was like dancing and flashing and singing. Quick recovery. insane. Oh my gosh. I was like, I'm still processing all that stress.
[00:51:19] I'm still figuring out how I want to
[00:51:21] Laura: discipline you differently next time. Right, exactly. And you're all moved on like an angel.
[00:51:24] Kori: Right. I'm sitting over here like, Oh, was I too aggressive? Was that too strong? Was that traumatic? Is this going to be a core memory? And now you're you're over here doing the thriller moves.
[00:51:36] You healed yourself with some Michael
[00:51:38] Laura: Jackson. It's done. I said Michael Jordan. Oh, my bad. That's fine. That's so funny. Anywho.
[00:51:47] Kori: Yeah. Lord help us. That, and then you, too. I mean, the yuck, the yum in my yuck. You're the one liners. I hope you write these down.
[00:51:57] Laura: I do. I do. And I, Merritt found a roll of toilet, uh, not toilet paper, of, uh, wrapping paper that just had a little bit left on the roll, and she just took the whole big thing.
[00:52:07] And was standing at the stairwell, smacking her hand, like, ready to smack her siblings on the butt. Going upstairs and I was like, I will take that. Thank you so much. Yeah. Thank you so much. so much. I said, I love you dearly and I mean this from the bottom of my heart, I'm going to lose my shit if you don't go upstairs right now.
[00:52:25] We are in the eff around stage and you are approaching the find out stage. Yeah. Rapidly approaching it. And the proportion, the proportion of my find out, of your find out is related to how much effing around you're doing right now. And I'm. Yeah. Yeah. You need to call it. Just trust me for your own self preservation.
[00:52:42] Yes. Please go upstairs. It's like, Can you snuggle? I need a minute. Yeah. I need a minute. Yeah. Pick
[00:52:49] Kori: me up! No. Sorry, sir. Just, just a moment. The ride is closed for
[00:52:54] Laura: maintenance. I need to have some more.
[00:52:56] Kori: The ride is closed for maintenance. Did you hear about what happened at Knott's Berry Farm?
[00:52:59] Laura: No.
[00:53:00] Kori: There was the, a ride got stuck.
[00:53:02] People were suspended in air for like six hours on, uh, like a spinny ride at Knott's Berry Farm. Was it working? Was it like running the whole time for six hours? No, no, no. It was
[00:53:14] Laura: stuck. It's like that. But they were suspended
[00:53:16] Kori: in air.
[00:53:17] Laura: People are peeing over the side of the thing. I
[00:53:19] Kori: mean, I don't know. I don't know.
[00:53:21] But it was.
[00:53:23] Laura: Not good. Not good. What is the response time like from a local fire department to get a little ladder up there?
[00:53:29] Kori: Yeah. Shouldn't have been six hours. But I don't, I think they were trying to figure out mechanically what was wrong with the machine to get them down because if you just go up there and start rescuing people and you haven't secured the mechanical aspect, what if it starts moving
[00:53:44] Laura: again?
[00:53:45] I was gonna say, before you pointed that out, I was gonna be like, that's a you problem, Knott's Berry Farm. I'm getting out of here right now. I'm calling Knott's County Fire Department and getting my ass off this ride.
[00:53:54] Kori: Buena Vista? I think it's in Buena Vista. Okay. Mm hmm. Yeah.
[00:53:59] Laura: Too loud. I was like, whoa, that's cray.
[00:54:01] Yeah, that is a great, great ad for never doing that. No, thank you. No, thank you. Oh, speaking of trips. That's another thing I'm excited. I shouldn't quite say, like, grateful for. Maybe the grateful for the ability to do it. I booked something for spring break. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Nice. We're going to, I know this is going to sound weird initially, we're flying to Utah.
[00:54:19] Actually, we're flying to Vegas and we're going to rent a car from Vegas. We're going to go to Zion National Park. I'm so excited. Nice. In Utah. It's going to be beautiful. We want to hike the narrow house. How long
[00:54:31] Kori: is the drive from Vegas? Like two, two and a half hours?
[00:54:34] Laura: Okay. We found this cute little Airbnb.
[00:54:38] Nice. That is out in nature and beautiful views of the mountains, so we can have down days, we can have high adventure days. I cannot wait. Are you doing any time in Vegas? Probably not much. Even my brother lives
[00:54:49] Kori: there. No, clearance, really? I did not know that. Yeah, and one of my, one of my best girlfriends lives there too.
[00:54:56] All right.
[00:54:57] Laura: Well, maybe, I, maybe I need, let's see if I can adjust the reservation. Well,
[00:55:00] Kori: let's just talk about this offline. Let's see.
[00:55:02] Laura: Sounds good.
[00:55:02] Kori: I'm excited to
[00:55:03] Laura: do that. We'll have to keep, uh, I'm If anybody has recommendations on trails they like in Zion or ones that you're going to say, Laura, you will die on, don't do this.
[00:55:09] I welcome those as well. Because I'd like to When
[00:55:13] Kori: is your spring break? March or April?
[00:55:15] Laura: Both. It's like last week in March. So I think it's like March 30th through April 6th or something like that. Okay. Okay. So. Mm hmm. All right, crew. Nice. Nice. Anything else you want to talk about before we wrap for the day as I'm watching our time?
[00:55:28] Kori: No. I feel like this was a nice, light conversation, and we talked about things that matter, but we also kind of focused on just the light. Mm
[00:55:38] hmm.
[00:55:39] Kori: Yes. And, yeah. Because there's a lot of it. There's a lot and I appreciate and I'm grateful for all the truth tellers out there who are putting their lives on the line to Share what's happening in the world to stand up for justice in the world and it's costing people things
[00:55:58] Hmm,
[00:55:59] Kori: and I really am grateful for the people who are standing up for humanity.
[00:56:06] Laura: Yes. Yes May we be one, may we, may we be among them. May we be among them. I know there'll be lots of opportunities for that. In coming days. For sure. Yeah, every day, for sure. Every flippin day. Yeah. Yeah. Um, but taking care of yourself, taking stock of what is good and, uh, using that as a way to both heal yourself, insulate yourself when you need to, when you need some recovery time and also thinking about it as a, a practice that creates longevity in your life and creates an openness is a good thing, a softness.
[00:56:42] Mm hmm. I think that's good. Happy Thanksgiving. Happy holidays. Hope that, uh, what, I hope you have the best holiday available to you, as some of my, my favorite podcasters say. Have the best weekend available to you. You know, whatever that looks like for you, we wish that for you.
[00:56:59] Keith: Happy Thanksgiving, everybody.
[00:57:01] Laura: Thank you. Turkey or ham? Enjoy them both. Chicken. Or turkey. And salmon. Chicken and salmon. And aromatics.
[00:57:08] Kori: Yeah, and aromatics. And I think we're also, I think my brother in law's maybe doing a roast. Roast. I really want to get like a more final count on just, you know, Steve, Steve and them,
[00:57:18] Laura: Steve, show yourself and tell me who your people are so that I can kind of like make that final decision of, of how much more you need,
[00:57:26] Kori: how much more we need.
[00:57:27] You
[00:57:28] Laura: got this. I believe in you.
[00:57:30] Kori: Yeah. It's going to be good. Wow. We I'll post some of the days long's worth of food. There was going to be cooking for long forever. Bring it on.
[00:57:40] Keith: I'm going to spatchcock my bird this year.
[00:57:42] Laura: Ooh! What does that mean?
[00:57:44] Keith: When you Spatchcock?
[00:57:45] Laura: Yeah, you like break it in half.
[00:57:47] Keith: You take out the backbone and like You give it CPR?
[00:57:51] Well, you kind of like flatten it down. It's just Yeah. And then you pull the legs up. So basically like the breasts and the dark meat kind of cook a lot more evenly. So you get like a really crispy exterior. The breasts are like juicy, juicy. It's really good. Mm hmm. I recommend it.
[00:58:06] Kori: Yeah.
[00:58:07] Keith: I love that you know how to do
[00:58:08] Kori: that.
[00:58:08] We usually deep fry chickens.
[00:58:11] Keith: Ooh. Yeah. I fried once in the past. If it weren't such a pain, I would do that all the time. It's
[00:58:17] Kori: expensive with all that oil, too. Yeah. Home Depot. We get the oil from. Or Lowe's.
[00:58:24] Laura: Yeah. When you're there for your sauna. Exactly. Just grab some oil. Um, who are you having Thanksgiving with, Keith?
[00:58:31] You're not heading home. You're going to be with people. With friends, right?
[00:58:34] Keith: Just friends down here. Mo and I do a little friendsgiving kind of thing.
[00:58:38] Laura: Love it. Yeah. Nice. I aspire to do that one year. I need to get myself together.
[00:58:42] Kori: I used to do that, but it, right, today is Friendsgiving at the boys school.
[00:58:49] That's good that they
[00:58:49] Kori: call it that at school. Yeah.
[00:58:51] Mm
[00:58:52] Kori: hmm. So just, but just for G's class, not for J's class. It's adorable.
[00:58:56] Mm hmm. Yeah, dwarf. They're funny though.
[00:58:59] Laura: I'll be out at the soccer field again this weekend 8 a. m Both days and it's an hour away and then they have to get there an hour early for warm ups.
[00:59:07] Oh And it's gonna be 30 degrees. Oh So that's why that's why there's no friends giving in my life right now because these dang seasons won't end. They just won't
[00:59:16] Kori: end Oh my That sounds That sounds like planning is required to make sure you're not cold.
[00:59:25] Laura: Yeah, and then there's like nothing to eat on that part of town, so we're going to like a Cracker Barrel.
[00:59:30] Not my favorite, so. Yeah. I'll be very ready for Thanksgiving. Warm me up. Give me some toasty stuff in a heated house by a fireplace. That's the plan. Yeah. Um, thanks y'all for listening. Happy Thanksgiving. We are grateful for you.
[00:59:45] Kori: Can we not say happy Thanksgiving? Sure. Sure.
[00:59:48] Laura: Because you don't love the Yes.
[00:59:50] Origins of the holiday. Yes. Wishing you a wonderful week. She went and interrupted my fixed Thanksgiving. It's okay, Friendsgiving. You're giving me frustration. That's what you're giving me.
[01:00:05] Y'all, as you have time to take off this next week and reflect, wishing you a wonderful week. Lots of gratitude, uh, with people you hold dear. Thanks for listening to Pushing Past Polite, or we talk about what matters to make the world more Just, I'm Laura. I'm Kori.
[01:00:22] Keith: I'm Keith
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[01:00:27]Keith: Bye. Peace
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Little Dude: Bye bye.
Laura: Jay, you did perfect!
